Question by pedestrianx388: Living with bf; I hate the dog, but he won’t get rid of him and won’t take care of him?
What do I do??! How to I make my bf see that he has to take better care of the dog, or get rid of it?? He won’t listen!
Long story short: My bf & I have a house together, and we got a dog from the humane society. I don’t like the dog, my bf does, (but doesn’t show it very well). My bf isn’t making the time to spend with the dog, train him properly, and he thinks this is “ok”. I feel like he’s treating the dog like a “prized possession”, just so he can say “Hey everyone, guess what? I have a dog.” And I feel as though we’re just paying money to have another chore around the house. I get nothing out of this dog but frustration.
The longer story:
I don’t like the dog and wish my bf would contact the guy who took the dog’s brother from the HS (same day we took our dog), who has a farm, who would take a LOT better care of him.
I admit it’s both our fault when we first got the dog. My bf was basically thinking “I REALLY want a dog”, and I was thinking “I guess he wants a dog…”; no real thought process or communication went on, which I regret.
I also know how hard it is to just give up a pet that you love, but you’d think that you’d have enough common sense to either take better care of the dog, or give him to a better family. How selfish is that??
I’m not a dog person, (I was bit on the nose by a dog when I was younger and had to get stitches). I have tried to like (or put up with) the dog, but in the end, I just don’t like him. What’s even worse is that my bf doesn’t take care of him properly. He’s a german sheppard/newfie/rottie cross so he’s a big dog that requires lots of exercise, and the dog is lucky to get a half hour walk a day.
-he whines all day at us,
-tips over garbage cans,
-he hasn’t been trained on walks so he pulls whenever he wants to (we now have the “gentle leader”, but that’s just a quick fix),
-has learned to jump up on the countertop when we’re gone and knock everything over (plus eating any food that happens to be there),
-I can’t stand the huge amounts of hair that will still be around if I had the time to vacuum twice a week,
-he sleeps in the same room with us and stinks it up because we have to keep the door closed, or he’ll go looking for midnight snacks on the countertop downstairs,
-he still jumps up on people and my bf hardly teaches him not to,
-there are STILL accidents in the house (after a couple years with the dog), because my bf will be playing a video game and will “forget” to take him out,
-he’s not socialized properly because my bf won’t take him to the dog park or for longer walks,
So, how do I make my bf see?? I’m definitely not about to leave my bf, but I can’t stand this dog, and I can’t see us having kids with this dog around…I picture the dog jumping on the kid by accident and hurting him/her, and being ignored completely, because there’s a friggin’ baby to take care of!
I’ve even told him that I observe this as how you’re going to be when we have kids, and all he can say is “people change”….well why the hell isn’t he changing NOW?? (I’m not asking for much, I actually care enough about the dog that he’s happy, too).
anne b: I KNOW we’re too young to be having kids and are not prepared, I just mentioned it because I would like to have kids some day,I think about it, and can’t help but think about the future every once in a while. I compared the two because taking care of a dog, to me, feels like taking care of a toddler ( for the next 17 years).
Answer by Sybil
Your boyfriend probably won’t change even if you do have a baby. Are you sure you want to stay with someone that is so irresponsible he can’t even take care of a dog?
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